No one can help you if you don't help yourself.

& even if someone could, he wouldn't.

Because you're not even trying. Both of you. In your 20s. Still useless. Still wasting your lives away. What did your dad ever do wrong to have children like you? Maybe like what my dad said, your dad spoils you. Even though he doesn't have money, he gives you both whatever you want. & that's a major parenting mistake. Just look at the both of you.

I'm glad we don't socialise much. Save for the obligatory Chinese New Year gatherings, I hardly see the both of you, & even when I do, we narely speak. Now with all your shit going down, BOTH your shit, I'll be glad to tell you both what I really think when I do see you next. & it's not going to be pretty.

I don't care if you're 6 years older than me. In that case, you should damn well know better. & you, I don't care if you're merely 1 year my junior. You should never have started, as you too have seen your elder brother go down that road. From what I've heard, you're topping your elder brother in everything. Indulging in ALL the vices eh? Well done. What more could you do to hurt your widowed dad?

By the way, if you're looking for handouts, you ain't getting any from my dad. Ever.

If he begins to show any inclination of such, I'll be sure to talk him out of it. Trust me. We don't give handouts to people who don't save themselves.